Names: Bokang and Katlego Kupa
Married since: 29 July 2017
Pet name: Boobee
Kids: one
Scripture foundation: Psalm 121
How did you meet?
We both missed class back in college and bumped into each other at the music class
Was it love at first side?
No, we first identified as friends
What attracted you to each other?
Katlego – mystery and how he could sing so well and very calm
Bokang – Her voice and of course her booty
Why did you get married?
Because we wanted to build a home and raise our daughter in a family setup, we already loved each other so it was not really a big deal as many people make it out to be.
How did he propose?
He didn’t, just went and bought a ring and told his mother that he’s ready to get married then put a ring on my finger and said “we are married right”
How has marriage changed you?
It hasn’t, we are still friends and still share same interests.
What has marriage taught you?
That it is not just about us anymore, we have family members, friends, colleagues. Whatever decision we make must accommodate all those people
What do you love most about being married?
FREEDOM! being together without having to hide from anyone
What are some of the challenges you faced in your marriage and how did you overcome them?
Having a near death experience of our daughter, we survived through support of family and friends and prayer.
What do you mostly fight about?
Katlego: His lack of romance
What irritates you about each other?
Bokang: she never wants me to watch what I want, she only wants us to watch cooking shows and reality shows
Katlego: Him singing very loud in the house and in the public
How do you keep love alive?
We don’t take life too serious, we still play like kids
What do you for fun together?
Music concerts and taking a drive, just the two of us, singing in the car.
What do you think marriage is?
The bringing together of two separate families to create a new family.
What makes a marriage work?
Commitment and communication
What makes marriage fail?
When you too used to each other and you start to take each other for granted.
Why do you think is the reason for people to not believe in the institute of marriage?
People make marriage a huge thing, never do you hear people referring to marriage as a union of two people bringing two families together.
Do you think Premarital counseling is important and why?
Yes, however nothing can prepare you for the reality of marriage, only being in marriage can.
What do you think causes the high rate of divorce?
Partriarchy and feminism two extremes that don’t benefit anybody and of course infidelity and secrets.
What measures can be taken to break the rate of divorce?
It begins with respect and how we raise our kids, raise young men to respect women, raise young woman to respect men.
Would you advice people to do a prenup, out of community of property or in community of property and why?
That must be a person’s decision because all three of them have disadvantages.
What is the significance of lobola?
The acknowledgement of the woman’s family for raising their girl child well.
What advice do you have for people intending to get married?
Marry your friend